Let's face it, moving in with your other half isn't going to be all daisies and rainbows, especially when you guys are in an early relationship. Realistically speaking, it is not uncommon for your habits to clash and your tastes to collide during the first few days of your move. I mean, the ketchup goes in the fridge, not the cupboard!
This is why we have come up with some top tips on how to overcome cohabitation disputes and to succeed at moving in together. Trust us, you'll thank us for this, so read on!
Give each other some space
It is common for a couple's tiff to escalate simply because one has had enough of the other's presence. We understand that you're living in the same environment as your partner, but that doesn't mean that you should always be in the same room as them. So, from time to time, try to give each other some space. For example, why not designate a certain space in the flat or house that you could retreat to on your own for some good alone time? This in itself could be a desk or a nice comfy chair.
Have realistic expectations
Sure, you're in a relationship with this person and you get on with them, but that doesn't mean that they are always going to agree with you. So, when you do open the door to your new home, step into it with the idea that your partner is their own person and will have their individual preferences. However, that doesn't mean that you've got to settle for less. Compromisation is key. For example, if one of you wants to put some posters on the living room wall but the other one doesn't - why not choose to feature these posters in the hallway instead?
Divide up the household chores
When it comes to ensuring that the new place is not a complete and utter tip, make sure that it's not just one person doing all of the household chores. Again, the trick is to compromise. For instance, you and your partner could have certain days where you alternate on doing different tasks. One could do the dishes, while the other does the cooking and vice versa. This would make the whole cleaning up process fairer and less tedious for the pair of you.
Effective communication
Effective communication in any relationship is crucial, especially when the pair of you are in the process of moving in together. You are both going to be under the same roof as each other, so you might as well get it all out in the open. If any aspect of the moving process is bothering you, talk to your partner about it. Similarly, if you've got some ideas about how to jazz up your new home, discuss your opinions with your other half! There is no point in holding back - doing this will be frustrating for both of you. Likewise, when it comes to sorting out bills, make sure that both parties are informed about the dates of when certain payments are going to come out. This saves the whole "well, you could have told me" conversation.
Don't forget about your other friends and family
Believe it or not, it is easy to just completely break away from your friends and family as a result of moving in with your partner. You may find that having your partner around all the time is fulfilling all of your social needs - but think again. What are you going to do when your other half has to go away for the weekend? With this in mind, it's so important to regularly keep in contact with your friends and family. Arrange coffee dates, a night out, or maybe even a holiday with them? Having that time and space away from your partner will be good for you both. Also, if your partner is getting on your nerves, it's nice to know that there's someone else who can hear you out.
And there you have it! Your guide on how to overcome those frustrating cohabitation disputes early on. Whether you are in those early stages of love or not, there is no denying that moving in with your other half puts the ultimate test on your relationship. However, the trick is to stay positive and to just know that household arguments can be quickly resolved by simply listening to each other.
